We experience numerous disappointments each and every day. Our expectations go unmet, our plans are blocked by circumstance, our desires go unfulfilled, and we discover that our lives are subject to a myriad of forces beyond our control.
In some instances, we respond fiercely because we must invest ourselves and our resources to overcome genuine hardship. In others, our reactions are far more passionate than our circumstances likely warrant. The tension that permeates our bodies and minds when we are late for an event, interrupted at work, or waiting for someone to arrive can interfere with our well-being in profound ways.
It just takes noticing these reactions - however small - to shift our focus and begin to devote so much more of ourselves to what is truly important.
The small frustrations and irritations wield such power over us because they rob us of the illusion of control. But every problem is a potential teacher - a confusing situation is an opportunity to practice mindfulness, and difficult people provide us with opportunities to display compassion.
There is a natural tendency to invest copious amounts of emotional energy in minor dilemmas and frustrations in order to avoid confronting those more complex issues that are largely outside the realm of our control. The intensity of our response provides us with a temporary sense of personal power that helps us cope with challenges that might otherwise overwhelm us. But it is only when we let the little stuff go that we discover that the big stuff is more manageable than we believed.
In the stress of a singular situation, differentiating between an inconsequential annoyance and a legitimate challenge can seem a monumental task. Ask yourself whether the emotions you are feeling will be as vivid in a year, a day, or even an hour.
Needless aggravation is seldom worth the cost it exacts. You cannot distance yourself from life's inconsistencies, irritations, and upheavals, but you can relinquish your desire for perfect order and gain peace of mind in the process.