“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.” Wayne Dyer
As a single woman in my thirties, I see that society is afraid of alone-dom. It's as if lonely hearts are wasting away in basements, like people must have problems if, after a while, they aren't dating. But let's not be so quick to conflate "alone" and "lonely" in others - or ourselves. This difference is a freedom that breaths easy and weightless and is healing if we allow it.
Alone doesn’t mean you're not connected, that communities are not present and a part of your spectrum of existence. It is often times a choice, a precious gift and a resolute practice that we all - regardless of relationship status - should spend more time fostering.
Being alone gives us the space to be introspective, to think for ourselves. It is here that we can learn what we need and want, quieting just enough to hear the whispers of our innermost desires.
The infamous line from Jerry Maguire, “You complete me”, sounds very romantic but what does it really say? Being alone allows us to access ourselves as the complete person we already are.
If being alone is new for you, start small. Carve out time every week to be with yourself. Take yourself solo to a movie or dinner. Venture to new places. Explore. Be adventurous.
Give yourself the gift of your own time and energy – there’s nothing more worth it.